(I loaded this page onto my computer and read it on the train--frustrating not to be able to post my reply now it's written.)

I'm sorry for misunderstanding, and the rest of your comment makes a lot of sense. I certainly don't think you would advocate disregard of patients' feelings! But I do think there is a problem with the way doctors tend to disregard patients' feelings, and wanted to know how much you thought about that general problem. It is also true that the way in which other people's weight affects my life is primarily a problem of others' psychological state; whereas it affects yours primarily in terms of medical problems.

I think we are reacting to different aspects here, as you said to ashnistrike below. We're agreed on media; my perception of practicing doctors isn't as bad as some of the stories below, but the communications from my doctor are nothing like as good as those I get from my dentist (who is still trying to help my teeth deal with the effects of a mediocre orthodontist and an absent-minded me). In fact, perhaps due to being thin, I have /not/ been talked to by enough doctors about nutrition; while I have made my lifestyle significantly healthier over the last two years, I still haven't had anyone analyze my (easy to describe) diet and probably should--e.g. next time I see a doctor I should ask about milk, if only I remember to do so.

My perception of the fat acceptance movement, on the other hand, is that I've seen it do the things you said are "awesome/fantastic" and figured there were only a few nutcases who did the "not cool" bit. Apparently your experience is not at all concordant with mine, and that explains the different priorities.