I was just saying to another friend that our society these days encourages and rewards not just having an opinion, but judging. It's hard to back away from, just like it's hard to back away from the giant metaphors of transaction that are all around us, that everything is about an exchange (which also ends up tying in to worth, because people ask and wonder whether an exchange is equal).

I try to start with an assumption that people mean well, at least in some narrow frame of action. I don't know; it's a big question!