gaudior

All very true and perceptive. I let that last discussion slip past me, but I want to add to the idea of "White Women Syndrome" - I think it's not simply that we expect people to love us because we're pretty and perfect, but that it's the only kind of power that we often see ourselves as having access to. Because the correlation to being a Pretty Princess is that you are seriously fragile and need protection. My parents didn't intentionally treat me that way, G-d knows, but like you, I'm still trying to unlearn the idea that I will crumple when faced with anger or unkindness.

(btw, your link is wrong)