gaudior

Oddly enough, I've realized that years of reading yaoi have given me a very distinct sense of what makes someone a "bottom" or a "top," and that it has almost nothing to do with actual physical pleasure (except in Yami no Matsuei, because duh, of course you put the empath on top). Instead, a "top" is, personality-wise, direct, assertive and, for some reason in my head, less experienced. Whereas a "bottom" is more smart, manipulative, and possibly up to no good. These images kind of confuse me, as they really don't fit at all with the image of dominant aggressor/innocent submitter, but c'est la vie.