gaudior

Is it reasonable to think about some of these with regards to just generally trying to be a good and emotionally supportive friend? 2 and 3 are not things I had ever really heard or thought about before, and they remind me of experiences I've had where I gave friends the "perfect advice" and then they didn't follow it and bad things happened. And I realize in retrospect that probably telling your friends at length what you recommend that they do is not really super helpful; they're not going to remember it, they'll feel condescended to. (I had in fact realized the point about being condescending already, but the practical point that people just won't remember lectures, and will instead remember all their arguments against you, is totally new to me.)