gaudior

See, I think of all of those things as stereotypical "Ways Women Get Treated," in much the same way that many of the underlying assumptions are stereotypical "Ways Women Are." Except that it seems to me that both stereotypes are equally nondescriptive of the actual world I live in. I know very few women who are very much like the stereotypical "Ways Women Are," and I notice few instances of actual women actually getting treated in the stereotypical "Ways Women Get Treated." (Admittedly, "few" may still be too many, but it's a different scale of problem unless it happens a lot more than I notice.)

I don't deny that there are typical ways in which women get treated differently from men, or even ways in which I tend to treat women differently than I treat men (at least until I learn how a particular individual seems to want to be treated), but I don't think either set includes most of the items you mention.

Of all the items you listed in your original post, I see exactly one that I can interpret as you being treated in the stereotypical Ways Women Get Treated (8:55pm), if I assume that there was some unstated pressure being applied to you to join in the cleaning (which wouldn't surprise me). Yet it's clear each of them caused you to feel the need to exert some effort to combat the underlying assumptions, and that need was what I didn't understand (but now think that I do, thanks to your response to rustycoon).

I don't mean to the personal experiences of you or anyone else, but I do question the correlation between the stereotypical stories and your personal experience.

Do you actually find that you personally get treated in the stereotypical Ways Women Get Treated, to a significant extent?